Mindset Part 2
In the previous chapter we did talk about mindset and that it’s a very important aspect of human being .Everyone in life has gone through some disheartening moments in their livelihood. Some are still experiencing some atrocious and despicable experiences. Perhaps that’s what the world cannot offer is total guarantee that things would be well for the whole of human life.
I’m just looking at the clip of thousands of homeless Nepal men, women and children on BBC News who have been displaced by one of the world’s most dreadful earthquake. The emotional impact has been devastating to the villagers who have lost not only their homes but also their beloved ones.
The first 7.8-magnitud earthquake struck the Nepalese village of chapagaun at launch time on 25th April 2015. The disaster killed more than 8000 people and left thousands injured and homeless. In the absence of permanent shelter, 200 villagers have established a temporally camp in a square, where they eat and sleep together.
One remarkable scene that stroked my mind was the remarks of one of the affected old woman she said “We eat and pass the time together, the earthquake has made the future very dark, but it’s nice to see the young children laughing and playing”.
There are many different situations that really put us in a very awkward situation that we are deviated to see the future very dark, no glimmer of hope. Opting for the right mindset will help us console our broken hearted. There is always a way we can look at the situation and decide how we can be able to respond to it.
Opting for the right mindset is not to overlook the obvious disaster that has befallen you but it is to be able to decide how you will be able to respond to that particular situation. It’s about having total control over both the internal factors and external factors that surround you. It’s about accepting and applying the appropriate action that is deemed fit to the required stand.
Like in many circles, there are factors within and outside that impact the approach and success of one’s life. The external environment consists of a variety of factors outside your life doors that you typically don’t have much control over.
In a story of the Nepalese woman above, she eluded on a weird aspect amidst the calamity, she mentioned that children were playing and laughing. It can be taken literary that they are kids they don’t know much about what’s happening but the most profound lesson we can get from that is that one is capable of deciding how to respond to any situation. Mindset can be conditioned to process and to act in a certain way. And yes, the mindset itself is not fixed. You can change your mindset just by thinking it through
At this point it is worth noting about different types of mindsets and how they relate and affect our actions. There are two basic mindsets that shape our lives. A fixed mindset and Growth Mindset; in a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence .
People in a fixed mindset believe you either are or aren’t good at something, based on your inherent nature, because it’s just who you are.This sounds simple, but it’s surprisingly deep. The fixed mindset is the most common and the most harmful, so it’s worth understanding and considering how it’s affecting you.
For example: In a fixed mindset, you believe “She’s a natural born singer” or “I’m just no good at dancing.”
The fixed mindset believes trouble is devastating. If you believe, “You’re either naturally great or will never be great,” then when you have any trouble, your mind thinks, “See? You’ll never be great at this. Give up now.”
People in a growth mindset believe anyone can be good at anything, because your abilities are entirely due to your actions. In a growth mindset, you believe “Anyone can be good at anything. Skill comes only from practice.” The growth mindset believes trouble is just important feedback in the learning process.
Can you see how this subtle difference in mindset can change everything?
|FIXED MINDSET||GROWTH MINDSET|
|You want to hide your flaws so you’re not judged or labeled a failure.||Your flaws are just a TO-DO list of things to improve.|
|You stick with what you know to keep up your confidence.||You keep up your confidence by always pushing into the unfamiliar, to make sure you’re always learning.|
|You look inside yourself to find your true passion and purpose, as if this is a hidden inherent thing.||You commit to mastering valuable skills regardless of mood, knowing passion and purpose come from doing great work, which comes from expertise and experience.|
|Failures define you.||Failures are temporary setbacks.|
|You believe if you’re romantically compatible with someone, you should share all of each others views, and everything should just come naturally.||You believe a lasting relationship comes from effort and working through inevitable differences.|
|It’s all about the outcome. If you fail, you think all effort was wasted.||It’s all about the process, so the outcome hardly matters.|
Modern psychology knows about how belief systems about our own abilities and potential fuel our behavior and predict our success. Much of that understanding stems from the work of Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, synthesized in her remarkably insightful-Mindset the new psychology of success.
In the next chapter we will look at other common references in order to understand how we can inquiry into the power of our beliefs, both conscious and unconscious, and how changing even the simplest of them can have profound impact on nearly every aspect of our lives.